HOW CAN GROWTH MINDSET HELP IN BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS

Mindset is the way we perceive ourselves and others. It is a set of beliefs that influences us for making a decision, having an outlook on situations, and experiencing emotions.

According to Dweck’s research, people generally fall either on a spectrum of two types of mindsets. Fixed Mindset is the point of view that our intelligence, efforts, abilities, relationships cannot ever change. A growth mindset is a view that our intelligence, abilities, relationships are developed with our effort. 

People who have a fixed mindset believe their past experiences have been so hard that they cannot have satisfying relationships. They find themselves unlovable and labeled in every relationship they form. They believe in revenge and unforgiving their partner. These all unhelpful thinking stems from one of their fixed belief. If we have to put effort into relationships, it will not work in the present or future. The reality is every good lasting relationship works because of efforts through all circumstances. Fixed mindset people believe if couples are in togetherness, everything comes automatically or naturally. Relationship experts reject this fixed point of view as it discourages us and leads to anger, disgust, and dissatisfaction in the long run. 

People with a growth mindset view relationships in a way that brings growth and support to both partners’ life. Understanding, forgiving, and moving on is their solution for hurtful past relationship experiences. Every relationship teaches them more about themselves and their future partner. Individuals in a growth mindset believe both partners’ relationship skills can be changed developed if they put in the effort. Lastly, growth mindset belief is a relationship without effort is likely to fail. We should change our belief « they happily lived after » to « they worked happily ever after. »

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About the Author.

Carmiline Rebello is a psychologist at MindTribe.in. You can learn more about her by clicking here

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Acknowledgement: All images used are open source and from Unsplash.

 

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